Serving in the leadership role of our own lives, whether it be in business or in our family life, we need to be able to exert positive influence on those around us. Leadership is about influence.
Yet, every day people are choosing to give up their power to influence by choosing not to pay attention to the people right in front of them who pine for the attention that will make them feel important.
We are all pulled in many different directions today, especially because technology has raised the expectation of instant response, yet it is vital that we take control of our own personal power to decide in the moment what’s most important and control the situation in front of us.
When someone requests your attention, you need to make a decision in the moment as to to what is most important to pay attention to. Should you give your precious attention to the living, breathing human being in front of you, or to the mechanical piece of technology in your hand emitting a ring tone.
Hmm, as I type that and re-read it, the choice sounds simple, doesn’t it?
In my seminars on The 7 Deadliest Communication Sins I often get questions as to why “lack of listening” is notamong the seven.
This is the reason. Because I believe a “lack of focused attention” covers the lack of listening in a number of different contexts, some of which we’ll cover in subsequent posts here.
’til next time, choose to be a more conscious communicator and consciously give your full attention to the human beings in front of you, and see if that gets you a little more respect and attention in return.