As a child I was extremely shy and have always seen myself as an introvert.
It’s surprising, to me anyway, that over time I’ve turned into a solo-practitioner business owner whose business is speaking to audiences from 15 to 1500 these days.
Looking back at my youth I experienced tremendous self-doubt, even in areas where I excelled.
In school I rarely volunteered to speak up in class and would cringe when the teacher would look in my direction.
In sports, despite having success playing youth baseball my mom had to drag me to sign up each year when it was time to move up to the next level. This perpetuated until I reached the age of 13 when I stepped up to the big field on my own.
Back then my L.I.D. (Limiting Internal Dialogue) limited by success, I believe. But, we’ll never really know to what extent, I guess.
What I do know is that my L.I.D. created a certain mindset that led to my early struggles.
That mindset I call F.U.S. (Fear, Uncertainty & Self-Doubt).
I was reminded of this concept last week while facilitating a session for clients in my Communication Power for Leaders teleclass series.
Discussing the concept with clients in this online training has amazed me how much F.U.S. is out there and how much impacts adults in the workplace.
No matter hard you try you will never eliminate your L.I.D. or your F.U.S.
The best we can do is manage it.
We manage it by mastering three “self-communication” strategies:
• reframing situational meanings
• applying “Transformational Vocabulary,” and
• creating empowering “Primary Focus Questions”
Even when we do master those strategies we should embrace having to use them and embrace struggling at times with our L.I.D. and F.U.S.
Because if you’re not struggling with you L.I.D. and F.U.S. it means your not pushing yourself beyond your comfort zone.
’til next time, Communicate with Power!