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Overcoming the F.U.S. of Your Life

Today is recovery day.

Recovery from the first 55-mile bike ride I’ve ever participated in.

It was a wonderful experience, personally and physically challenging.

The 55 miles was not the challenge, though.

Over the 55 miles we experienced an accumulative climb of 3700 feet in elevation.Skip Weisman, The Leadership & Workplace Communication Expert, after recent 55-mile bike ride

That was the challenge. A 55-mile flat terrain would have been a breeze.

My day was filled with F.U.S. yesterday. Virtually on every significant hill.

I’m proud that rode the bike up every hill except for two.

One I had to get off and walk because I tried shifting gears too late into the hill, which put pressure on the derailleur causing the chain to come off.

The other occurred just shy of the crest of a hill when I suffered a serious cramp in my right thigh.

Overall, I was happy with my performance and feel pretty good today after an evening of icing my previously injured left knee that made it through the experience.

There was plenty of F.U.S. (Fear, Uncertainty & Self-Doubt) for me, though, as each successive hill presented itself.

Especially as the six hour journey wore on. Each successive hill got tougher, both from an actual incline perspective (or so it seemed) and from fatigue.

As you might imagine there was plenty of L.I.D. (Limiting Internal Dialogue) to work through that was driving the F.U.S.

What I used, and what you need to apply to work through the L.I.D. causing the F.U.S. in your world is P.A.D.

P.A.D. is the opposite of L.I.D.

P.A.D. is Positive Affirming Dialogue.

You know, it’s like that childhood story about “The Little Train that Could” reciting the mantra “I think I can, I think I can!”

Of course, I would suggest that using “think” is still stuck in L.I.D., don’t you? There is self-doubt inherent in that phrase.
Instead of “I think I can,” the phrase needs to be, “I know I can,” or “I believe I can!”

It wasn’t easy all the time yesterday, I have to admit.

My wife, who is a better, more natural athlete than I, was often between a 10th of a mile to a quarter-mile ahead of me, sometimes added to my F.U.S.

Often she would wait for me to catch up. We would start out together and it wouldn’t be long until she pulled far ahead.

I came to be comfortable with that and measure myself against myself, and not measure myself against anyone else.

Another important lesson, which I chose to apply by shifting my L.I.D. to P.A.D. in those circumstances.

Not sure when the next biking opportunity will present itself, I’m sure there will others this summer, just need a few days to recover and it’s back to the gym’s spin class for more training.

Feel free to leave your comments below.

“til next time, Communicate With Power,

skip weisman, transforming leadership and workplace communication to deliver champion level results

There are 2 comments. Add yours.

  1. Cynette Cavaliere

    Skip:

    Congratulations on your tenacity and perseverance! As a fairly novice long distance bike rider (third year), I appreciate your perspective and the application to other aspects of our lives.

    Although they are developed from a female perspective, you might find the “philosophy” and management techniques of Amy Ahlers’ & Christine Arylo’s Inner Mean Girl as a great representation of the concepts you have presented. I’ve learned to have pointed talks to hush my inner mean girls(s) to overcome many F.U.S.! innermeangirl.com

    Happy trails!

  2. Way to go Bro! And, congrats to Ann, too!

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