Another aspect of this communication sin, which I started discussing in last week’s Conscious Communicator Tip #23, is one that goes under the radar screen of those with whom we communicate.
It’s under the radar screen because it occurs solely between our two ears, inside our mind. In the moment it may appear we are giving the subject in front of us focused attention, yet thoughts are running through our mind at all times.
Often, those thoughts are on things other than what the person in front of us is conveying. Our mind is on stuff more important to us, such as the workload on our desk, phone calls to return, fast approaching deadlines, or a family issue left back at home.
Yet, the person in front of us doesn’t know we are distracted, only we do.
If we’re honest with ourselves we should admit that many of the times we are blamed for “not listening” comes down to the fact we were distracted during the conversation. For many reasons we don’t proclaim that to the other person, we just allow it to happen to deal with the impact afterward.
We owe it to the subject in front of us, who needs our attention, to be frank and candid with them as to where our mind is. If the time isn’t right to focus on their issue, let them know and schedule a more appropriate time when your mind can be more clear.
This is particularly poignant when meeting new people. Often, we fail to grab that person’s name because our focus is on introducing ourselves to make that great first impression. Ironically, by missing their name, we are in danger of damaging that first impression we’re trying to make.
Hmm, something to think about? What do you think? Leave me a comment below!