In a recent tele-class in my Communication Power for Leaders Series we discussed how giving others our full focused attention is very attractive and helps us develop the charisma that can draw people into our sphere of influence in a positive way.
That’s one reason why offering others our focused attention is important. Let me share another.
During the teleclass last week one of the students, who has been attending our 5-part series regularly said, “It’s infuriating when people multi-task when I’m trying to speak with them, especially if they’re typing a message on their computer or smart phone.”
Yet, this person admitted to committing the same egregious sin herself.
Since early childhood most of us have been taught “The Golden Rule,” which is to treat others as we would like to be treated. Yet, all too often many of us violate our own commitment to this “golden rule.” I think its time we got back to it.
In this technological crazed 21st century culture its time for us to consciously choose to be more “in the moment.”
To do that I recommend something I learned upon taking up the practice of yoga 15 years ago, it’s called “beginner’s mind.” Over the years it has helped me be more mindful and in the moment.
“Beginner’s mind” is the mindset we need when we are learning something new. It takes focus because we have not yet mastered the skills required to effectively fulfill the task.
We can use ‘beginner’s mind’ when communicating with others by dropping the judgments and the beliefs about what the person in front us is bringing to us.
By doing so, we just may pick up new, important information while building an ally we may need to influence down the road, tomorrow, next week or next year.
Hmm, something to think about? What do you think? Leave me a comment below!