After making the final decision to leave my baseball career I hired a business coach to get me started on the right path.
I was taken aback when the first question he asked me seemed irrelevant.
He asked, “Skip, what are the beliefs that you are going to use to drive your business?”
I was stumped. I had no idea how to answer.
In reflecting on that question posed to me, at the time I remember being totally caught off guard and blank.
Up to that point in my life, 41 years old, I honestly never thought about beliefs in a secular context. Beliefs were always things related to religion and faith based contexts.
So, I think initially I was confused.
I was also scared.
My impression was that if this was the first question he’s asking me it may be of utmost importance and I was stumped, that is a problem.
My second thought was, “I am going to fail.”
My third thought was, “I am going to have to answer this question, and soon.”
Before I go on, take a moment to think about that question or a similar one, such as, “What are the beliefs that drive you and your approach to business and life.”
Over the last 20-years I have developed a core beliefs that have served me and my clients well, I think. But, they didn’t come quickly, they evolved over a number of years.
Because I was stumped by that first question, I figured I would start with a foundation of what I had recently learned in my two year journey of self-assessment and development, chasing Anthony Robbins around the country. Between February, 1998 and November, 1999, I attended about a dozen Tony Robbins events. Some were quite extensive, from between 5-10 days of immersion.
That experience transformed my life and my belief system about who I was and what I could accomplish.
So, I started with the beliefs instilled in my from my Tony Robbins experience, such as:
1) No experience in life has any meaning, except the meaning we choose to give to it.
This speaks to empowering ourselves ot breakthrough any challenge and take responsibility for what happens to us by putting a positive, empowering, meaning on an experience that will move us forward instead of keeping us stuck and at the affect of it.
2) Beliefs have the power to create and the power to destroy and are based on a foundation of experiential references.
This helped me to look at the beliefs that had driven me to that point in my life and the supportive, reinforcing references that keep them in place. If a belief served me I knew I could keep it by focusing on those references. If the belief no longer served me, it was time to find new references to change that belief to build a new, better one for where I was at that time in my life.
3) You can create confidence within yourself for any endeavor moving forward by using past success regardless of the context.
This was really important for me because anytime you’re starting over in a new endeavor after 20-years of focus in one area, which was really about 36 years of focus in one area and industry, it’s hard to see the forest for the trees. You can’t see that success in one area can cross over into other contexts and that there are complementary skills that will carry over.
That was about all I had, but it was a start.
Next time, I share some of the beliefs that began to come to me as my business moved forward. Most developed from what I learned from seeing how my clients beliefs had created the reality they brought to me they wanted help in changing and how they reacted and responded to my coaching.
’til next time,