Due to a restructuring at my wife’s place of work, a woman was transferred to her team.
This woman came with a reputation of a negative attitude and a “drama queen” label.
You know the type, people always in an emotional state putting everyone on edge?
Well, to get off on the right foot, my wife asked her team to keep an open mind and give this woman a fresh start.
My wife also let this woman know that the department from which she was coming had a reputation for negativity and that she was coming into a different, more positive work environment.
This woman’s response was “I am who I am, I can’t change how I react.”
Initially, she didn’t.
When she was stressed, frustrated or upset everyone knew it.
Her verbal exasperations, sighs, and highly intense language reverberated throughout their small work area.
But, in communicating to understand this woman’s personality, my wife learned something that has helped reduce the drama queen tendencies.
She learned most of the drama this woman created was around her own inadequacies, lack of confidence and self-esteem.
Self-esteem and self-confidence issues caused all the drama. It had little to do with other people or her environment.
Her issues were related to inabilities to do something she needed to do (usually around technology) or to understand something she needed to understand (regarding her new role).
But, her reactions reverberated throughout the work environment, impacting everyone’s emotions.
With my wife’s coaching, she’s starting to understand how to manage her frustrations and reactions, and is being kinder to herself.
She’s a work in progress.
There is no one cause of drama in the workplace, many factors are involved.
I recently released a new report providing a 6-step solution to eliminate drama in the workplace, addressing many of those factors.
However, the report doesn’t address the drama caused in situations like my wife’s new employee.
Her problem is low self-esteem.
Low self-esteem is at the root of drama queen’s and kings.
Something I’ll address in my next article. Look for it in a few days.
Make it a great weekend!
P.S. – This report How to Transform Your Workplace from Drama & Defensiveness to Initiative and Ownership is absolutely free, and available at this link.