Proclaiming to know the source of all your problems is brash, I know.
I’m humble enough to realize I’m not that smart, but I also think you’ll agree I have pretty good insights after you read further.
In last week’s article for which I received an overwhelming response from readers (if you missed it you can read it here www.WorkplaceCommunicationExpert.com/?p=6655 ) I wrote how low self-esteem was the reason behind a workplace drama queen’s behavior.
After writing that article and interacting with some readers I came to realize that most, if not all, of our problems are caused by low self-esteem.
For all the issues below their underlying cause is low self-esteem:
- Drama queens & kings
- Don’t respond well to “constructive criticism”
- Conflict avoidance
- Fear & Anxiety
- Consistent & Cross Contextual Self-doubt
- Inability to accept compliments
- Inability to offer compliments
Which of those do you, or have you, suffered from?
According to Dr. Marilyn J. Sorensen of www.GetSelfEsteem.com and author of “Breaking the Chain of Low Self-Esteem,” low self-esteem is defined as “an irrational and distorted view of self that affects the person’s assumptions, interpretations, perceptions, conclusions and beliefs about himself or herself as well as others.”
Among beliefs affected by low self-esteem is self-worth, which causes individuals with low self-esteem to feel they don’t deserve success or they are not as worthy of success as others.
The reason I claim it’s the cause of all your problems is this…
If you’ve ever struggled to solve problems or make decisions to move your life or business forward, the reason you don’t take the necessary action, or if you’ve procrastinated, is because you don’t feel you deserve it and you self-sabotage.
We bring these issues on ourselves and exacerbate them by not stepping up to deal with them due to our low self-esteem and low self-worth.
Conversely, if you’ve been impacted by any of the above behaviors of others, it is because of their low self-esteem (see last week’s article – www.WorkplaceCommunicationExpert.com/?p=6655 ).
In my opinion, low self-esteem is an epidemic in western society.
It’s in need of a fix.
Next time I’ll offer some self-esteem building strategies we can all use.
Make it a great week!