I was 28 years old when I had one of the most important “wrong conversations” in my life.
Of course, there have been thousands of “wrong conversations” in my life, just like you’ve had thousands.
A new owner had purchased the professional baseball team I was serving as general manager for in mid-season.
One night, early in his ownership, we were in the midst of a rain delay. It was the sixth inning, our team was losing 4-2.
Standing with my new boss watching the rain fill the canvas tarp covering the playing surface he said to me…
“You know, next year, we can’t have any of these!”
“You mean, losing,” I said referring to the scoreboard.
“No, rainouts,” he countered.
I shook my head and walked away without a rebuttal to his ludicrous comment.
He was my new boss and I didn’t want to confront the issue no matter how wrong he was.
I began planning my resignation at the end of the season. I knew I couldn’t work for someone who was going to expect me to play God.
This month is the one-year anniversary since I created the concept around The 4 Workplace Conversations.
Of the four, the worst and most damaging is “the wrong conversation with the right person.”
The “right person” obviously is the person with whom you need to speak with to get what you want or need.
When we’re in front of them (the right person) we usually know it because we’ve invested a lot of time and energy to get the appointment.
These conversations come in two primary contexts:
- The hijacked conversation.
- The avoided conversation.
It’s not hard to recognize these conversations. They occur all around us.
We’re involved in these every day and we enable these conversations to perpetuate.
We need to learn how to turn these around and begin having “the right conversation with the right person.”
We need to take control of hijacked conversations if we want to be seen as credible in our organizations and with our clients.
We need to step up to discuss what many organizational leaders feel are the undiscussable conversations.
I’d love to hear from you about your experience with “the wrong conversations with the right person.”
Please, leave a comment here below and join my discussion, thanks!